One of the most important skills to learn when you want to lose weight is being assertive. Saying no when you mean no. Not letting people persuade you to do things you don’t want to do or eat what you don’t want to eat. Recognise what it is that you want and avoid doing things just because you don’t want to upset someone. Learning to say no is vitally important. Be selfish because that is the way to look after yourself and when you do that you will begin to eat more healthily and exercise more too.
Do you really want to lose weight?
Of course you probably say, that’s why I’m interested in how to do this. But do you really want this?
You see if you want a different outcome then you have to do something differently.
If you continue to eat too much, or eat unhealthy food, or fail to exercise then fine but you will then continue staying overweight or continue gaining weight.
The outcome for not changing anything will be how you will be in twenty thirty or forty years time.
When you are eighty years old will you then turn around and then say, ‘OK now I’m ready. Now I have the time to eat more healthily, do more exercise and find other ways to respond to emotions instead of overeating. Would that work well for you?
Do you know how to change?
When you are totally sure you really do want to be slimmer then you need to know how to do this. I think you already know the formula for this: ‘Eat less, eat more healthily and exercise more.’
Are you going to apply the changes?
So you know the true outcome you want and you know what to do, so now you must actually take the actions needed!
What’s stopping you?
What do you need to motivate yourself?
Some people find tremendous motivation from being accountable to a coach, or a buddy or a support group.
Also you could ask yourself the 4 important questions:
1. What will happen if I do?
2. What will happen if I don’t?
3. What won’t happen if I do?
4. What won’t happen if I don’t?
When I started exercise 4 weeks ago I was 76 kgs. I successfully lost 1 kg per week. Totally in first 2 weeks I lost 2 kgs. However since the last 2 weeks my weight is not decreasing. I do brisk walking for 45 mins followed by yoga for 45 mins. I have only fruits during day time and have 2 rotis, 1 bowl dal and spinach veg before 8 pm. I eat only apples and watermelon, have 1 tsp flaxseeds in the morning. Please guide me. Looking forward for your reply.
Weight loss happens quickly at first then tends to slow down. If you maintain your exercise routine combined with a healthy way of eating then you will continue to lose weight until you reach the weight that is right for you at this time!
if you really want to lose weight you have to consider your lifestyle and surroundings. You can’t simply just say I’m not going to eat this, I’m going to work out and all but still take on the stressors of life and expect different results. Stress makes you clench, improper breathing starves you of oxygen, your body goes into crisis mode. It hoards, it is on guard, you don’t relax. So you keep everything inside, pores clogged, intestines stuck and full. You have to change your lifestyle. Get a balance of vitamins and minerals, drink plenty of water (clean water, ditch the bottles and fluoride). Stop stressing, tell yourself the truth. Find a calm inner place. Don’t judge yourself, but set realistic goals and expectations. We often get caught up in the euphoria of wanting to do different, but get burnt out because of our approach. I would suggest if you really want to lose weight, going immediately to a work out might not be your best bet. You are essentially just doing cosmetic work but not cleaning the system. You have to really evaluate your lifestyle, your mental health, your stressors and your food and drinks. I’ve lost 70 pounds in 8 months
Thank you for all your excellent advice and many congratulations on your magnificent personal weight loss!