One of the most important skills to learn when you want to lose weight is being assertive. Saying no when you mean no. Not letting people persuade you to do things you don’t want to do or eat what you don’t want to eat. Recognise what it is that you want and avoid doing things just because you don’t want to upset someone. Learning to say no is vitally important. Be selfish because that is the way to look after yourself and when you do that you will begin to eat more healthily and exercise more too.
Do you really want to lose weight?
Of course you probably say, that’s why I’m interested in how to do this. But do you really want this?
You see if you want a different outcome then you have to do something differently.
If you continue to eat too much, or eat unhealthy food, or fail to exercise then fine but you will then continue staying overweight or continue gaining weight.
The outcome for not changing anything will be how you will be in twenty thirty or forty years time.
When you are eighty years old will you then turn around and then say, ‘OK now I’m ready. Now I have the time to eat more healthily, do more exercise and find other ways to respond to emotions instead of overeating. Would that work well for you?
Do you know how to change?
When you are totally sure you really do want to be slimmer then you need to know how to do this. I think you already know the formula for this: ‘Eat less, eat more healthily and exercise more.’
Are you going to apply the changes?
So you know the true outcome you want and you know what to do, so now you must actually take the actions needed!
What’s stopping you?
What do you need to motivate yourself?
Some people find tremendous motivation from being accountable to a coach, or a buddy or a support group.
Also you could ask yourself the 4 important questions:
1. What will happen if I do?
2. What will happen if I don’t?
3. What won’t happen if I do?
4. What won’t happen if I don’t?